by Angela Moore
I’ll be the first to admit that there was a point in life a few years ago where I was upset regarding my divorce, not just at my former husband, but mostly at myself for feeling like the choice to marry him, leave a high paying job, dedicate seven full-time years (and nine total) to helping my ex-husband prosper in his purpose, and all that good stuff was the worst mistake I could have ever made in life. Truth be told, in hindsight, I think I was also a little upset with God for allowing me to do that. (That’s crazy. I know) It was as if my hurt wanted to convince me that honoring marriage according to God’s word, being obedient to His call to help my ex-husband and carrying out the role of the wife as helper was something I should not have done. (I tell you, disappointment will jack up your thinking if you allow it). Needless to say, I snapped out of that place of being upset, choosing to place things in proper perspective to see all of the good the Lord allowed for me even in the midst of entering into the realm of “My Life As I Know It, the Remix”.
Coming out of that space landed me in another unfamiliar and unfortunate place. I was no longer angry or hurt, but was now questioning how I was going to be who I was supposed to be after spending so much time connected to another and helping others (my former husband was a Pastor and a large part of my purpose during our marriage was helping him help people.) I, like many, who have lost any relationship of any type that, sadly, we allowed to somewhat define us, sometimes feel lost after it ends. It’s as if we’ve purchased stock in www.MySolePurposeIsInYours.com<http://www.MySolePurposeIsInYours.com> instead of www.IStillHavePurpose.com<http://www.IStillHavePurpose.com>. (The last website does not exist, even though it should.)
Whether it’s a divorcee’ who loses a mate, a widower who no longer has a spouse, a parent who loses a child, a man who loses a job, an athlete who loses a position, an actor who loses a role, a boyfriend who loses a girlfriend, or a friend who loses a friend, finding our “new” after losing is not only sometimes tough, it’s very necessary. I’ve learned the new and improved purpose that awaits us is intricately tied into our pains of the old. That’s what all that anger and crying, and questioning, disappointment and doubting, and fear and hurt and humiliation and shame was about all along. Getting through that was our gift from God to give to others. The Lord knows who He can trust with what. Being trusted to live again after losing is a mighty badge of honor that many can’t carry. Being able to use what we’ve lost to help ourselves and others know God, find peace, have joy, cling to a reason to really live again, develop a new way of thinking, change a generational mindset, form a new platform to share with the masses, chart a path to healing or even something as simple as have a host of wild and crazy stories at which to laugh is a blessing that belongs to those who believe that purpose doesn’t end when the relationship does. In fact, some of the best Biblical and historical figures did their best business and received their BEST blessings following the beautiful beginning of some very tragic ends. You’ve got next!
Angela Scott Moore has sported many hats in her lifetime. Some were cute, some not by choice and others brought a little chaos. All in all, each hat has helped her become the woman she is today and hopes to be in the future.
She’s a former broadcast anchor, reporter and producer, as well as a trained motivational speaker, fundraiser and marketing/public relations expert. Careers in Civic Service, Social Justice and Human Resources have recently been added to her list of “been there, done that” duties. She’s also a former pastor’s wife of nine years, having worked in full-time ministry, where the majority of her time was spent empowering women and girls. She’s overcome life-threatening and life-altering illnesses, divorce, loss of job, death of close loved ones and too much to post, all while purposely trying to maintain a smile, positive outlook, encouraging word and faith in God.
Angela is an avid inspirational blogger at http://www.angelamooreblog.wordpress.com<http://www.angelamooreblog.wordpress.com/> and also a philanthropic community supporter who has served with more than 25 local and national organizations over her nearly 20 year professional career. Currently, as a hobby, she operates the blossoming, full-service public relations venture Amazing Kreations, offering media and event planning assistance at low, or no cost to small organizations, ministries and businesses. She also hosts a Facebook page devoted to divorce called I’m More Than What Happened<https://www.facebook.com/ImMoreThanWhatHappened?ref=hl>.
Taking lessons learned from each phase of her ever-evolving life, Angela’s now donning the hat of a single woman on a single mission to use spoken and written words to remind others that Life Gets Better and it’s possible to look and be their best in the process.
